Who Am I?

When we ask ourselves this question, we might assume that “I” is something solid, something separate. But when we look closer, we begin to see that our sense of self is not as fixed as we might think.

The concept of “I” does not exist in isolation—it is shaped by everything around us. We define ourselves through relationships, roles, experiences, and the way we interact with the world. In this sense, “I” is not a standalone entity but a web of connections, always shifting, always evolving.

And if the self is constantly changing, then it is not something we need to defend or hold onto so tightly. We are not as rigid as our thoughts sometimes make us believe. Like everything else in life, we are in motion, impermanent, flowing.

With this understanding, the way we face challenges begins to change. Centralizing the problem around "I" or making ourselves the target isn't helpful. Instead of seeing obstacles as personal struggles centered around “me,” we start to take a wider view. We realize there is a larger wholeness to contribute to. When we let go of the idea that everything is about us, we free ourselves from unnecessary weight.

By embracing a willingness to devote ourselves to a greater good in the world, we shift our focus away from "me" and live more freely—without prejudging ourselves, without carrying the burden of self-doubt.

And in that shift, we discover a new kind of freedom.

*This article is inspired by Jon Kabat-Zinn – Wherever You Go, There You Are – Selfing.